Still healing a broken heart...

I don't understand how a man can feel that he is doing a woman great favors by using her sexuality as a weapon against her; in essence, teasing her. I don't understand why a woman has to play games in order to win a mans affections. Why can't a woman just love a man? Why can't a man just appreciate that love? Why do we have to lie, bat our eyes, play hard to get? How is it that honesty has had to find its way into the dark corners of love? Why is it that love has become a game to be won?