If there's something that I have learned about personal happiness it's that it should never depend on the approval or affection of another; that is what feeds the emotional and sexual addiction. If we are of the personality type that depends on another person for our personal happiness, then where is our personal identity? It's wrapped up in the other; therefore, you know not yourself, so how can you know another? If I can turn to me and say that I love myself as deeply as I would any other human being, then I have freed myself, and I have alleviated that other person of a huge responsibility, that of my personal happiness; now they can take care of their own happiness. Do you see what I mean?